This phrase cracks me up every time! How many times has it happened to you that you say to someone close of yours, “I am so worried, I can’t even sleep at night.” and all they say is, “Don’t worry.” I experience so much betrayal at that point. The voice in my min goes, “Oh, really! I just don’t have to worry? I didn’t think of that solution. Huh!”
The social structure classifies groups as personal, close, social, public and so on(I gave just a gist not the perfect words). If there’s someone who will be allowed in my very close emotional proximity, I would naturally want more than just “Don’t worry.” Everyone knows that their solution to stress is ‘no stress’ and we people also wish if there was a switch of ‘stress-nostress’ and ‘worry-noworry’. But that doesn’t happen, does it?
The idea of going to psychiatrist is now on the verge of normalization and people wonder as to why people suicide. How hilarious! The worst words to tell to a person who’s in stress are — Just don’t take stress! Yes, peeps if only I could change myself in seconds you wouldn’t be here even a bit more. But there you are, sitting there and spilling your kind of words-of-comfort.
If you want to console the person, give them solution IN DETAIL. Don’t be so absurd. For an instance, “I don’t know what will happen in exams, I am so worried?” Just for once, try saying, “Hey pal, you have studied and I saw you studying. You will do great for sure.” How hard is that?
Also, it’s not always when you want explanation either. Sometimes it is viable to say, “Calm down!” but say it with expression for the least. It’s not only the words but also the way you use them. For an instance, “I studied everything, I don’t know if I will be able to do that and I want to perform better so that I can go to Ivy League for masters but I am so worried…” Here, just say, “CALM DOWN!” and the person will realize what you are trying to say. But if you speak without any emotion, that person will just mock you in his head. Also, that doesn’t mean that person will leave you but it will reduce your respect by the smallest measure. After all, you are the closest one.
Now, that I have ignited this topic in your minds, let me know which type of person you are?
DISCLAIMER: It’s just an article for fun. Nothing is specific.
